The Wedding Celebration

LOCATION OF YOUR WEDDING
If you are getting married at St. Thomas More or within the Diocese of Austin, you should allow yourselves at least 6-12 months for your preparation.
 
If you are getting married outside of the Diocese, please allow yourselves at least 9-12 months for your preparation, as all packets leaving our diocese must do so through the Office of Canonical and Tribunal Services.
 
WEDDINGS OUTSIDE OF SACRED SPACE
A wedding outside of sacred place is becoming one of the most frequently asked questions regarding marriage.  Increasingly, requests are being made to have weddings literally “outside.” Due to this influx of requests, priests, deacons and pastoral ministers involved in marriage preparations are reminded about Church Law in this regard: “A marriage between Catholics or between a Catholic party and a non-Catholic is to be celebrated in the parish church.” (c.1118.1) 

DRESS CODE
Wedding gowns, attendant dresses and guest attire should be modest in nature befitting the sacred character of the wedding celebration. Gowns and dresses with bare back, midriffs, short dresses/skirts, high slits (more than 4 in above the knee), skin-tight outfits, plunging necklines/backs, strapless, side-less, and low backless attire are not dignified or appropriate for the wedding rehearsal, Marriage Rites and/or Mass in a sacred space. These types of garments require a wrap, jacket, or stole to cover shoulders, cleavage, and exposed back and sides. Veils are not considered wraps. Please submit a photo of gowns/dresses if their appropriateness is in question.
 
THE WEDDING CEREMONY
The ceremony is the time in which you will become husband and wife, bonded in the sacrament of matrimony. It is a sacred time, and the reason why you are here! You have invited your families and loved ones to witness the commitment you are making to one another, before God and His Church. Please be respectful to all those present, including the priest or deacon, and each other, by coming to the ceremony ready to give yourselves in marriage. Please do not come to the ceremony impaired, dressed immodestly, or under any influence that would hinder your ability to give a free will consent to the marriage vow.
 
THE WEDDING LITURGY
If both parties of the couple are practicing Catholics, the Church invites them to marry within the context of the Eucharist. In this case, a priest is the ordinary witness of the wedding and presider at the Nuptial Mass. For a marriage between a Catholic and a fiancé of another religious tradition, they may choose to marry within the context of the Eucharist (Nutpial Mass), or they may choose the Liturgy of the Word followed by the Rite of Marriage and concluded by the Lord's Prayer (without Mass). In this case, a deacon may serve as the minister. A liturgical meeting will take place
6-8 wks before the wedding and couples are asked to complete their liturgical selections in the Together For Life booklet.

BRIDAL COORDINATOR
St. Thomas More provides the assitance of a bridal coordinator to assist couples with their wedding celebration. Couples are encouraged to contact our bridal coordinator, Lourdes Alonso, [email protected] to discuss the wedding ceremony. She will be present at the wedding rehearsal and wedding ceremony. 

At St. Thomas More, the staff is prepared to assist you in your discussions, reflections, and choices for the best expressions of your love and faith. We would like to help you plan a wedding ritual that is both reverent and beautiful. The basic ritual structure is given to us by the universal Church, but pastoral options are available for you to personalize your celebration.